Support for families who have lost a baby

Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is heart-breaking, here at Kingston Maternity Unit we wish to offer you our sincere condolences on the death of your baby/babies.

Every parents experience is very individual and their circumstances are different, but the death of a baby is a very distressing experience and one that is generally unexpected. Losing a baby brings grief that is much deeper than you may have ever experienced before and can last much longer that most people expect. There is no time limit to grief, so take it one day at a time. All Midwives at Kingston are trained in Bereavement care, so they can support you through your labour and birth. In addition to this, we also have a dedicated Bereavement Midwife.

If you wish, you may have contact with her throughout your stay whilst in hospital. She is here to offer you, your partner/husband and family emotional support following your loss. She is also here for additional support for the midwives. There is a direct telephone number to contact the Bereavement Midwife for your convenience with a private confidential answering machine. Emotional support, practical guidance and information on all funeral options are also available to you. There is also the opportunity for the Bereavement Midwife to come out and see you at home, alongside the community midwives. She will also liaise with other healthcare professionals relating to your ongoing care on your behalf.

Bereavement Midwife

Jo Brooks
Mobile 07703 888 462 with a private confidential answer machine.

Additional support:

Kingston Bereavement Service Kingston
Our bereavement service is a registered charity providing support and counselling to anyone who lives, works or studies in Kingston-Upon-Thames. A referral for counselling will be required from your GP if you require counselling to be fully funded. It you wish you can access the service independently but will be asked to contribute to the cost of your counselling.

Bereavement Support The Miscarriage Association Support for parents following miscarriage up to 24 weeks of pregnancy.
Helpline: Mon- Fri 9am-4pm: 01924 200 799

Twins Trust (Previously TAMBA)
Tamba have a bereavement support group for those affected by the loss of one or more babies of multiple pregnancies. Telephone 0800 138 0509.

Surrey Sands  
They can provide more local support and advice and can match families with a befriender who has had a similar experience to provide telephone support. Group meetings are also offered.
Helpline: 07817 410075, please leave a message and the chairman will return your call. 

National SANDS
Helpline: Mon-Fri 9.30am-5.30pm and also Tues + Thurs 6-10pm. 0207 436 5881

Antenatal Results & Choices (ARC)
ARC offers specialised support to parents before, during and after the prenatal testing process; when they are told their unborn baby has an anomaly; when they are making difficult decisions about continuing with or ending a pregnancy, and when they are coping with complex and painful issues after making a decision, including bereavement.
Helpline: Mon-Fri, 10am-5.30pm: 0845 077 2290 / 0207 713 7486 

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
The British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy is a membership organisation and a registered charity that sets standards for therapeutic practice and provides information for therapists, clients of therapy, and the general public.

The Mariposa Trust
An international support charity for anyone who has suffered the loss of a baby during pregnancy, at birth or in infancy. Divisions include Saying Goodbye: offers comprehensive advice, information and support using various platforms, befrienders and the Saying Goodbye remembrance services at Cathedrals across the UK and globally. Growing you: for support for those in a pregnancy following loss. Waiting for you: support for those on the path to adoption. Holding hope: support for those having fertility investigations and Love in every tear: support for all family members and friends who need support when a loved one is going through grief.

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